Enforcing Values to your Children
Parenting can be challenging in so many ways; however, you do not have to be a mastermind to teach values to your children. The key to succeed while teaching values is to follow these simple steps:
Ethical Actions: This is as simple as what is right or what is wrong. As a parent we might be lacking teaching our children ethical actions. Even when your child does not understand this term it is always necessary to enforce it.
One day I was at the grocery store doing some shopping and my 4-year-old boy pick up a box of cereal that was on the floor. I saw many “ADULTS” walking by and not even made a gesture to pick it up. As soon my son saw the box on the floor he pick up and asked me mommy where this goes? I pointed him the right shelf and he just put it on the shelf. Soon after that I thank him for his action, and I told him that he help not only the person who works stocking the groceries at the supermarket he also help someone of not trip over with that box of cereal on the floor causing a fall.
Then; you will ask me what does this has to do with values? Well he knew that this was completely “wrong” he knew this box of cereal was on the floor and shouldn’t be there in the first place. Teaching your children ethical actions could be as simple as this one, and in the future they could difference what is RIGHT OR WRONG. Always explain why their actions are right, or might be wrong. Sometimes children act in an involuntary manner thinking that what they had done is ok, and this is when you as a parent need to step in with your knowledge.
Principles: This one goes with the hand of Ethical Actions. When kids know what is right or is wrong, they also stand for rules to be followed or principles.
Example: The famous action of bullying this is so common not only in teens, but they also can be happening in your children preschool or kindergarten school. Teaching your children from his/her early years Ethical Actions, why they shouldn’t bully other children; why this is wrong, in the near future your child will stand for his/her principles knowing that bullying is an action that it’s not right and they will also stand for the rules of the school of not bullying.
Integrity: Teaching your children being honest is the most precious value you can ever gift as a principle. Integrity should be teach and enforce diligently, when a child have a strong sense of being honest or have integrity, he or she not only will stand for her ethical actions and principles she/he will not lie and will stand for the TRUTH.
Example: One day my oldest son (he is thirteen-years-old) was playing with his 4-year-old brother in his room, suddenly I heard the little one crying. When I went to the room I ask him what happen? He said he hit me!! I looked at my oldest soon and ask him did you hit your brother? He knew he was in trouble and told me no mom; he hit himself with the corner of the bed. Once again I told him are you sure about this? I have the sense that you are not telling me the truth, and you are not being honest with me. I want you to tell me what happen now! Then he told me yes mom I hit him, because he was jumping in my head. Literally I was having a little one making something that was not right either, but my thirteen year old is 3 times bigger than his brother, so I have to correct one for not being honest to me and lying and the other one for jumping in his brother head.
Children or even teens tend to lie when they are in trouble, because they think saying a little lie will save them for his/her actions. It is always good to tell them that no matter how bad things are, they need to tell the truth, not only because being honest or have integrity it’s an important value, but by telling the truth will save them for other situations.
Foundation: As you continue your journey as a parent, you will continue enforcing values to your children. The base of these values come from foundation, you will continuously work with your child teaching values. Always think that your child is like a ceramic pot that you are molding, and you wanted to be perfect for your flowers. You want that ceramic pot to shine, and have the best size and height, so when you sow those flower seeds they will grow up beautiful. Same way will happen with your children, founding those values to your children, will make one of a kind man or woman in the near future.
Disclosure: FYI this is based on my own experience and stories as a mom.
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